But the Bible doesn't tell us if the good brother
and the Prodigal Son ever bridged the
chasm of hurt to be close again
As a Prodigal Daughter this bothers me
For the sisters that never strayed but ached
for me and the hurt I caused everyone
Anger burns near the surface
every time I come home
The son came home once after years of
hard living and that's the end of the story
This daughter has built a revolving door
has never stayed home long after the celebration
But, still hurting, leaves again
Can't bear the hurt of the sisters that stayed
Keeps thinking that maybe next time
the reunion will be sweet and genuine
I keep hoping for a penance that will be real
Strong enough and harsh enough to prove
how I long for the fellowship of family
But each horrid downfall widens the gap
Oh to be young again, to build forts
and climb trees with my sisters
to laugh and wrestle with dad and cozy down
to listen to the melodic voice of mom reading
What made me want to leave this happy home
I'll never know - but the road back keeps getting longer
The sisters get farther shrouded in the mist
I don't know the magic words to bring them closer
Too many years and too many hurts
I've lost track of all there is to apologize for
"Sorry" has lost its meaning, but I am
Lost without them - the three who stayed
A double-edged sword, a Catch-22
I can't stay unless I know they want me
They can't trust to want me unless
they know I mean to stay
I see now there can be no compromise
It was I who broke the bridge of trust
and it will be I who must restore it
Why must it be a bridge which may take years to build?
If I had only damaged a step on the front porch
think how quickly I could mend it
and run inside for dinner - I would
hardly be missed
They have been missing me for years, though
And the bridge is ornate - a thing of beauty once repaired
I am overwhelmed at the task before me - the skills I must learn
But I'm told there is a Master Craftsman who will teach me
(For Andrea - Mother's Day 1994 - when we were both waiting tables and her son was in Hawaii)
Copyright © 1994 --
Sunday - blazing sun
Tall, cool teas at Brunch
Flowers on the tables
Moms with their clans
Cards and presents litter the aisles
Waiters dodge baby strollers
But what of the other mothers?
The ones whose love pierces them today
Sharp pains tug at arms and hearts
Arms ache to hold the little one
Hearts break to see a face, hear a word
Baby is with Daddy today
or Grandma or a family who was
ready for a child when she was not
Mothers - almost more so for the yearning
for the chores they're unable to perform
for the tears they miss wiping
for the lullabies someone else gets to sing
Happy Mother's Day Sweetheart!
Shed a tear or sing a song
But know that you are loved -
The title of Mother - earned by
battle scars on the heart - is yours!
Say a prayer for other mothers
whose love makes them lonely
who serve brunch to big families
and smile - but sadly - because
Baby is with Daddy
Johnny with the bodacious burgundy hair
is making pizzas at Golden Boys in
Talk of poetry and politics fills the air
Literature captures our imaginations
We drink Red Tail Ale and debate and flirt
In walks a street woman to wash in the bathroom
An odor surrounds her as she moves past
I catch a glimpse of rows and rows of yellow teeth
We feel superior because it hurts to empathize
We're all young and strong and have jobs and dreams still
Chatter stops when she comes back through the room
She's invading the comfort of our intellectually elite mood
She comes toward me asking for a cigarette
She leans against the stool, so close I can feel her breath
I hurriedly reach for a smoke, I just want her to leave
She stops - she's standing so close
She starts to sway - she starts to croon
Aretha Franklin sings Pink Cadillac on the jukebox
The woman at my side is harmonizing
In a powerful, robust, aching voice she sings
and I am mesmerized
I tentatively sing the melody
and she reaches for my hand
Her tiny, gnarled hand holds my polished and manicured fingers
and there's no one else around -
We're making music and she calls me "Sister"
She's no longer scary and ugly and scarred
She's a woman I want to know more about
I listen as she tells me stories
Her name is Lila Fae Hancock and I tell her
she's Sassy, Saucy, Smart... and Soulful, she adds
Her life is very hard, she's a tiny old woman
She's been abused and used on the street when she
was only seeking shelter from the cold
We sing some more, arms around each other
When the chairs are being stacked on the tables
I walk her to the door - she reaches up with one hand
on each side of my face and kisses my cheek
She says, "You're the first person that's shown me any love"
My eyes sting and I feel I've been touched by an angel
I've never seen her again, though I've looked
I sink into quiet memories when self-righteous talk
moves to the homeless
Somewhere out there is a woman with a beautiful voice
Who called me "Sister" and kissed me
and for a moment I loved her
I wonder if she remembers
Copyright © 1999 by
Liesl Arensmeier(Brat #2)
Oh Nana! With your cherubic face and twinkling eyes
I'm holding a picture of you in my mind that makes my eyes sting
that makes me want to dance with all the joy of heaven.
The angels are singing for you - their welcome song
the one you've dreamed of for so long,
the one so many of your friends have heard before you - and
I'm picturing the party they're throwing for you now -
and the way your face is glowing.
You who have loved angels all your life - who had pictures and statues
adorning every inch of your walls, I'm imagining the overwhelming
shock when you see the warrior angels, the ones with swords to protect,
and then the ones around the throne - the glory and splendor we cannot comprehend,
and your breathless awe when you meet your Lord - that one
moment that a lifetime of love cannot possibly prepare anyone for,
you down on your knees that no longer hurt you, the hosannas
and holy, holy, holy's that slip from your tongue - and the next moment
when Jesus reaches for your very hand, and raises you to your feet,
embraces you as His sister, and with a voice
too blessed for mortal ears declares you a good and faithful servant.
Oh, what a moment, Nana!
How you've always loved the Lord. He was your constant companion
especially when life began to get quiet for you here on earth,
when your fellow followers had already joined Him, you would sit for hours
reading your Bible and your many books of praise, your little crystal
verse holder by your breakfast setting. You always had a psalm
on your lips - I envy the songs you are learning now - with your
glorified voice and strong lungs, your hands in the air.
And how you always loved beautiful things. The mansion Christ prepared
for you is beyond your wildest dreams, I'm sure.
Every possible consideration has been taken care of -
but who will have time to enjoy all the appointments,
you will certainly never walk the hallways alone,
carrying your little tray of dinner things to the kitchen
to wash out and set in the drainer.
No, because you'll be dining with all the saints. I'm imagining you seated
next to Moses or Joseph or Joseph of Arimathea, or with your beautiful
sisters, Aunt Lou or Aunt Dolly - what conversations you three will have
with the patriarchs of the faith, I cannot even begin to speculate!
I can't begin to understand infinity or the timing of heaven.
Wouldn't the moment at the throne be enough entertainment for all time?
And yet, He says He's set up mansions for us.
I don't know when you'll ever find time to linger
in your heavenly bedroom or lounge on your satin fainting sofa,
reclining in your new silk pajamas and delicate slippers.
You were such a classy lady, Nana!
I just know that Jesus has some French Provincial furniture for you
and gold embroidered draperies.
But more than anything, He'll have Himself for you
and every beautiful decoration, every pearly gate, and golden cobble stoned
street will pale by comparison to the richness and splendor of seeing Him
and finally knowing Him as you've yearned to all your life, to never be apart
from Him, to never be in pain, to never be sad or lonely ever again.
I'll miss you, Nana - but oh, I'm so happy for all you are enjoying right now!
I have a picture in my head - your twinkling eyes as you are joined
by your loved ones and welcomed into heaven!
Web Posted on
April 12, 1999, after being read on April 9, 1999, at her Grandmother Alice E. Carver's Memorial Service, by Liesl Arensmeier.
(A delightful shot of Alice and great grandson, Tyler.)
(And, Alice Carver, as we remember her . . . )
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